Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
Uh, the only problem with what you are naively suggesting is that stock options that are granted during the marriage are subject to division.
As for the lottery winnings, if it was won during the marriage (and before the divorce was filed), the ENTIRE amount that was won is subject to division. Having it paid out over a number of years isn't going to change that.
And filing separately isn't going to change the status of marital property. What is bought during the marriage is subject to division. Regardless of marital status.
Oh, and deferring a bonus isn't going to work either. All it will do is piss the judge off.