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OK, so they who here has actually dated someone they met at the gym?

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I think the problem is I don't know what situations are ok to approach some one. For example, last Thursday a large group of us went to dinner. There was a girl eating at another table with her parents and her daughter. No wedding ring, so most likely a single mother. She was cute and I think we may have made casual glances at each other, but that was that. What's appropriate in a situation like that? Do you just walk up, say I'm sorry for interupting your meal but I couldn't help but notice you from across the room. Would you like to get coffee sometime? It just seems so shallow. I don't know. I was never good at meeting women unless one or both of us were drunk.

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I've always been much better meeting people face to face then online. Online it just feels really awkward to me. I stumble a bit on how to get the conversation initiated. I don't want to sound retarded. Written text doesn't convey tone, so it's easy to come off as an idiot.

In your scenario, if I felt there was a connection (smiles/glances), I would of done something. I probably wouldn't of interrupted their meal, as some parents might be upset over that. However, when they are getting up to leave, I would of pounced.

Just think of this. What's the worst thing that can happen? She says no, laughs at you? The father is actually her boyfriend? Embarrassment? Big deal. Nobody but you will care that this ever happened. But, what's the best thing that can happen? A date, a relationship down the road, etc...

If anything, it gives you experience so the next time you do it, you adjust your tactics based upon what worked and what didn't.

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