[quote]This is a recopy of what I originally posted about the article ...
============================================================ Increasing numbers of middle-aged men are going off sex, according to relationship experts.
Counselling and sex therapy charity Relate says it has seen a 40 per cent increase in men who simply cannot be bothered to make love to their wives and partners. ============================================================
What I think people are not grasping is that (1) it is a significant increase (40%) - or decrease, depending on how you look at it - and (2) it is the fact that it's the men's partners/wives. [/quote]
TOO LATE TO TRY AND SOUND LIKE YOU WERE HAVING AN OPEN-MINDED DEBATE. PEOPLE HAVE GRASPED PERFECTLY WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO SAY. YOU’RE BASICALLY SAYING YOU THINK THAT NOW WOMEN HAVE A ROLE IN SOCIETY BEYOND THE KITCHEN AND HOME, THAT THEY ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DECLINE IN A MAN’S SEX DRIVE. IT'S NICE TO KNOW I COULD BE SO POWERFUL! BUT YOU'VE STILL CHOSEN TO IGNORE SOME MUCH GREATER CAUSES FOR LOST SEX DRIVE AND FUNCTION - ALCOHOL, POOR HEALTH, MENTAL HEALTH, WEIGHT. TAKE A LOOK ON THE INTERNET. THERE'S PLENTY OF RESEARCH ON THAT, NONE OF THEM MENTION WOMEN AS THE REASON. AND HERE'S WHAT YOU SAID EARLIER. YOU MADE YOURSELF VERY CLEAR:
Women today are much different from woman say just 10-20 years ago. Call it "womens liberation", call it "womens empowerment", call it whatever you like. Increasingly, women are taking a more "masculine" role in our society (i.e., working more, entrenching themselves in traditional male roles - even becoming "stronger" in the assertive sense), while at the same time men are losing a lot of the things that have defined them as men in the past, and the two may be just coincidental or, as I believe, proportionally linked.
What I think is happening is that men are psychologically losing themselves today as their traditional roles in a family (and even society) are being threatened with extinction. I fear us men are slowly becoming less beneficial as women become more entrenched in traditional male roles, along with legislation/laws/judgements that further erode our traditional place in society. As I mentioned before, men - especially as we age - become more psychologically attached to sex, so I think the two are butting heads, therefore, the decline in sexual drive