yeah, but I'm saying even if it isn't a blatant pickup line. If a guy that may not be the best looking guy (balding, little weight issue, etc) in the world is sitting next to you and church and tries to start up a conversation with you, seems like a nice enough guy and asks you to coffee, I would say the vast majority of women are going to turn him down.
There was a report recently I ready where in most cases, couples (in terms of physical looks) on a scale of 1-10 are usually within a +2/-2 of each other. So if a women is a 10, chances are she will not be seen with a 6, unless that 6 is able to offset his physical defects by a large bank account, etc.