I am right there with you, Aspect. I think that initially physical attraction is what attracts me to someone and then if they have a brain and a good heart that it a bonus. I know that seems shallow, but it's the truth. I have tried to talk to the nice guy that isn't that good-looking and I can't get past the lack of physical attraction. That being said, I married the most handsome man that I have ever laid eyes on- and there was such attraction that it was unreal, but look where it landed me...on a divorce support forum. Seriously, I have been wondering lately if there is a man that is good looking and nice, honest, employed, etc....Maybe you have to choose one or the other. Aspect, if you are the total package maybe you should just give me a call- sounds like we are on the same page. LOL!! -Sarah