Divorce Support Forums: Trashing the ex

[quote][quote] I've had to explain myself to cops, my wifes X, friends, landords, boss's, CPS and countless others just because of her trashing me. [/quote]

My ex trashed me in the court documents; to all our friends and family and neighbors. To this day I think he convinced himself there was truth in some of it. He sat in court with his brain injury and all telling the judge he was the premium parent and I was not worthy of any alone time with our child. Can you imagine? I just sat there shaking my head as the judge ripped his head off. What comes around goes around. Give them enough rope and they will hang themselves. [/quote]

As I sit and read through this thread I have realized I am also guilty (especially in the beginning when the pain was so so fresh) of trashing my stbx to many of my closer friends and even unfortunately to my daughter a few times in a haze of so much pain that I didn't even know I did it. I have tried to let it go, I think my daughter has managed to forgive me, but there is still this tiny piece of me that beats myself up for that. Then I got to this post from Julia. And a flash of hope hit me dead center. My stbx also has a brain injury and I have no doubt has cinvinced himself that he is perfectly justified in leaving me after looking after him for the last 10 years, finding someone else to take my place before he had even moved out of our bed, stopping sending money to support his daughter while we try to get settlement details worked out, even for bringing his new GF here to this property while he finally came to get his things. I am waiting very patiently for a court date because he refuses to answer any of my lawyers requests for financial information from him and he has stopped sending the support that was at least keeping me from slipping into bankrupcy while I try to get this house sold. I only hope a judge will be able to see as clearly as I and everyone else I know does just how unfairly he has been treating me and in turn his daughter. I also hope I can find the strength to vent here when I need to but keep my cool with everyone else (especially our daughter)until I can finally have some closure.

Christine

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