Divorce Support Forums: How open have you been with your partner about sex

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"Not that this has much to do with mens' rights or even divorce, but I would like to ask you a few questions, as if I were one of your kids, and to see what your answers would be to them:

1. Mommy, why do men have to pay for everything when a man and a woman "date"?"

1. Has never come up, as I teach my children equality...the person who asks for the date pays and either can ask. Personally for teenagers, I think when they start going out on a regular basis things should be split or traded off. For example,if my daughter has a steady boyfriend, then sometimes she pays & sometime he pays or they go dutch...or they find something to do that doesn't cost money cause their isn't anything wrong with that.
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LOL! You know very well that if you told your daughter this, and she then asked a boy for a date, and paid for it, she would be laughed at and ridiculed by her peers--both male and female. She would then hate you for the rest of her life. This is the kind of sexist, anti-male mentality which I am complaining about. You may not possess it yourself, but it is part and parcel of our culture.

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"2. Mommy, I heard Uncle Joe telling someone that his wife divorced him for his money and now he has to live in a shelter, and his wife stays in the house he bought and he has to pay her almost everything he makes. He said that he only gets to see Jimmy and Janette once a week, for two hours. Is this true? Did he do something wrong?"

2. That's just a bunch of crap and doesn't deserve a reply.
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Is that what you would tell your child if he asked you such a question (using the appropriate, actual names of parties)? Would you justify such an answer by telling yourself that "this is all the information he needs or can understand"? Children have an innate, inborn sense of justice. After giving such a reply, would you be surprised if the child then suspected that you can no longer be trusted, are part of some odd, hidden conspiracy, and that Uncle Joe is one of the victims of it? In the event that he were to do so, these natural suspicions of the child would be one-hundred percent correct and justified!

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"3. Mommy, what is "prostitution"? Why is someone on TV always saying that someone is going to jail for it?"

3. Prostitution is illegal. Whether we agree that it should be or not doesn't matter, if someone breaks the law then they go to jail.
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Is this supposed to be an answer to the child's question? He really wants to know what it is that people are going to jail for all the time. If your child is old enough, and intelligent enough, to ask such a question then he will not accept such a dismissive reply, and will know that are trying to BS him.

If everyone believed, as you apparently do, that an arbitrary law is its own justification, then shouldn't blacks still be segregated? Shouldn't we still be subjects of The Queen? Shouldn't women still be the "property" of men? If they were still so, then shouldn't you presently believe that any woman should go to jail for behaving in violation of his orders, or that he should have the right to punish her for doing so?

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"4. Mommy, what is an "abortion"? I saw someone on TV holding a sign that said it is murder. If this is true, why don't they arrest someone who does this, instead of the "prostitutes"?"

4. Abortion is legal. Whether we agree that it should be or not doesn't matter. They didn't break any law.
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As explained in my last response, an arbitrary law cannot be its own justification. The collective conscience of the people, in a democracy, must continually weigh the justice of all law and these same people must, then, do anything they legally can to oppose unjust law. The corrolary is also true; license to behave in an unjust way must be opposed by the people with appropriate law. The fact that a given, voluntary act MAY be performed at the expense of a victim should be enough to justify law prohibiting it, particularly when the act may be murder, even if such victimization cannot be proven. Pregnancy is a normal, not a pathological process, and interference with it may produce such a murder victim. No one knows.

Mistake, you now stand naked, in the eyes of the entire world, exposed as a typical self-aggrandizing woman who specializes in selling lies, half truths and three-quarter truths. You are clearly seen as doing so while twisting and spinning--or totally ignoring--every question or issue of justice, with respect to relationships between men and women, to your own favor and for the benefit of your feminazi peers.

I may or may not be "stupid", but I'm smart enough to see THIS!

Edited by jbar (05/16/08 01:10 AM)

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