well i already covered setting the precedice topic, and since i did not come up with the agreement, the attorney's did, i am not responsible for that according to my attorney. a judge did not sign off on it, it can't be used to determine final visitation or custody. that is why it says without prejudgice on it. yes he is a true addict to the core, manipulative, passive aggressive, and narcisitic. but i think once i feel like i can get myself under control and get thru the divorce i will be able to set some healthy boundaries with from here on out. yes i have everything documented since we seperated and he is really digging his own hole, i just have to stay patient and strong....thanks for your advise..