Divorce Support Forums: Need Support

Thanks for the comments. I do plan to see a counselor, just to get a healthy perspective on the situation. Since the divorce talk began, I do find that I have had some nutty ideas from time to time. For example, my husband is out of town this weekend on a fishing trip (or so I think -- ha, ha) and I thought it would be really funny to send him a text message stating that a woman called the house and asked for him, and then hung up on me when I asked her name, and then give him the number of one of those adult chat lines and say that that was the number she called from. I thought, "Hmmm, he'll think that his dreamgirl that he's "in love with" had called and won't the joke be on him when he calls the chat line number and realizes that I tricked him." I didn't send him the message -- realized that (a) it was kind of immature and (b) I was just trying to get his attention.

I'm sure that we probably will get divorced, and I've been trying to imagine my life without him. We'll need to sell our house, and there are some projects we need to finish (building a garage) before we sell. I want to sell as soon as possible. My husband is a student with one year of school left, so I pay all of the bills. He's supposed to be arranging to have the garage built, but I suspect that he may be dragging his feet because he's concerned that once the house is sold, I'll no longer help him financially. I wasn't planning to totally just kick him to the curb with nothing, but I do not want to live together for another year! He gets really touchy (and not touch-feely touchy) when I ask him for an update on the "garage situation." Anyway, I was thinking about just telling him that I want to put the house on the market in, say, 3-4 weeks, garage or no garage -- and point out that we'll probably get higher offers if there is a garage, so he needs to hop to it. The only drawback to my little "plan" is that I don't think that I can really do anything even if he is delaying in selling the house (short of court involvement -- I guess a judge or mediator could set a deadline, but we aren't there yet, and that process would be extremely time-consuming, I'm sure).

Thanks again.

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