Wow. Thanks for the support. As to the typos, whoever the idiot that mentioned them, read my first paragraph. I specifically said there were typos and I was typing very late. Are you so stupid you can't read with a few typos? Jesus.
We each get $100 a week for whatever, after everything is paid for (gas for cars, groceries etc). With 140k a year affording some household help shouldn't be an issue. We are still putting money into savings. The issue is I am always the one to say if there is money or not for something. I am sick of being the mommy. The bankruptcy was due to the business failing.
We aren't putting our dogs for adoption...how freakin stupid. Considering I have been on my own since 15, I think I have done very well for myself. I had to put myself through college completely on my own so student loans were a must. I don't regret them, otherwise I would be making minimum wage.
Apparantly he has seen all the free stuff and thinks he needs to pay for it.
Thanks to those that did provide advice. We would be better off negotiating everything out of court it seems. The more I think about it the easier it is to just keep everything the same. What's another 5 years?
PS - The reason I asked about the student loans, was that it was partially used to pay both our living expenses while I was getting my graduate degree. He did receive benefit from the money. A few courts seem to agree. http://www.divorcesource.com/research/dl/debts/01mar52.shtml
I want to do what is fair, again he is a good person, so I am not looking to "rob" him. I do realize some of our money issues are my fault as well. Obviosuly, there are things I should do better. I just get tired of being the only one who even cares if the bills are paid, if we are saving enough money for retirement, etc.
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