Hi everyone. I have been reading posts here for about a month, and just today husband told me for sure he wants a divorce. So here I am. We have been separated for about a month now and while I in my heart knew this was coming, I never let go of the hope that maybe we could work it out. He is AD AF and is a couple years from retirement. We have been married about 8 years and have two wonderful boys, 4 and 1 1/2. I am a SAHM and left a federal job to PCS. I want to make this work and am seeing a counselor. He does not. Neither one of us "did anything", just grew apart.
I guess, my biggest concern is trying to keep everyone happy. My parents want to pay for my lawyer so that my interests are taken into consideration, however my husband wants us to "share" a lawyer and work this all out on our own. I know he will be fair with me as far as dividing up everything goes, but is this the right thing to do? My parents are afraid that they will have to pick up the pieces and may end up supporting my financially until I can get on my feet. I don't want to take from my husband what is rightfully his but I don't want to get raked over the coals either. I have no one to talk to about this, as I am the only one I know who is going to be divorced. Help, where do I start??