Be careful about bringing up the other women. If you keep bringing her up, I think you're going to push him away. I think it's ok to share your feelings, but don't use guilt. Find out what makes him feel loved. If it's physical affection, it doesn't just have to be s3x. A massage, hand on the chest at night, etc. You're going to have to initiate showing him love first and hopefully, he will feel the connection again and do the same, but you'll have to let him know what makes you feel loved, but do it without being mean, etc. If it's about spending time together, say things like, "I saw this wonderful little restaurant the other day. I would love to take you there. Maybe we could go for a walk in the park afterwards."
You mentioned he says work is stressful. He probably doesn't want the problems at work solved, etc. Encourage him. Things like "I know you sometimes find your job unrewarding, yet every day you go to work in order to give us things we never had growing up. While other people jump from job to job when things get tough, you keep sticking it out. I appreciate your loyalty and conviction. Thank you."
You will need to be sincere about these things. My guess is he just wants to be appreciated.
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