Divorce Support Forums: He will not visit the kids

My soon to be ex and I are bouncing back and forth with legal paperwork - he has a lifetime of drug and alcohol abuse - and detox, rehab and then more drugs - we have twin two year old girls and he requests 50/50 to avoid child support! Then he throws out a rag wanting emergency visitation stating I am keeping him from the girls....it has not taken much effort on my part. He saw them two weeks after he left and showed up drunk and angry - then two weeks later he calls to find out when it is convenient for me for him to pick them up from daycare.....I said no. And that is the extent of his attempts....no calls, no support, no concern. How do I move past the fact that he obviously doesn't really want to see them or take any responsibility for them? I know his mother pushes him - and she won't even break down and call and ask about them -if I had even once done anything but tried to help him I would feel like I owe them....but he owes us after everthing we sacrificed for him. Also...he has twin boys that he does not miss seeing- he doesn't pay child support and has them 50/50- I see a pattern....meanwhile I have toddlers ripping my blinds down everytime a loud vehichle goes by - asking where their brothers and daddy are? Everything I read says be honest....they do not understand he is gone - they just know he is not there...what do I do? I can't trust him not to be high or drunk around them...how do I make this go smoother for them?

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