Divorce Support Forums: He will not visit the kids

He abused drugs around the boys forever before anyone figured out he was an addict-I made him tell his mother when my girls were two months old. Their mother knew and spoke up after his mother filed for a marchman act order to have him detoxed, then she shared that he had been abusing drugs eleven years ago when they lived together. Their mother is just as bad as he is and is not about to lose her week off just because he might be drunk and driving. Or that he might have them at some drug dealers house because her daughter does drugs with her friends in front of them - so no big deal to her. Very big deal to me...his mistake was telling me all of this...I told him while I was pregnant that I would not put up with it and I was not the same type of person the boy's mother was....my mistake was marrying him in the very religious based rehab he attended for 11 months and believing a drug addict could ever change...I should have waited until he came home because I could have never forseen him doing drugs the one time they let him have a little freedom and not completing the program - I could have saved myself this headache.

And I can not believe any man who beat his wife up again the day he left the house and his daughters would ever be held up with one "no" - if he had my kids I would be calling, and trying to see my kids no matter what...he is too busy getting high to care - they are not his focus because he knows I have them and will take care of them. He doesn't think the boys mother will - because she never has before. That is the difference...my concern is my children...why should I make his problems a priority in my life when he has made my children an option in his.

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