In regard to the illness, it's a mental illness (she refuses to give details). If it were surgery, of course I would not be opposed to the request.
I allowed them a continuance on 1 May to 22 May. 3 - 4 weeks should have been plenty of time [in the psych hosptal], and they should have let me know earlier. I think she's intimidated by the fact that I am ready and willing to go pro se against her. She actually moved the motion date *before* I had called the court to do so - and as they are my motions, that is an unethical thing to do; that, and the fact she knew about her "client"'s Section 12 in Feb, but neither of them told me - the BBO will be hearing of that as well.
This lawyer can bleat all she wants for fees, but she won't get any [from me]. She thinks she's "it", and I cannot give in to that; I have my boys' wellbeing to think of, and that is of far greater import.
Therefore, I will deny her lawyer's request, and meet her face-to-face on Thursday, where we can talk this thing through, both in front of the judge and in mediation. Her "client" does not need to be there.
We shall see how "hard" she is when I call her tomorrow to tell her to appear Thursday.