Divorce Support Forums: Quitting job vs. getting laid-off

I understand wanting to have a game face on, and trash talking the opponent, but it does not work well in court. Consider showing some respect and consideration for the fact that this woman is working in the same field as the judge is trained, and disrespect for that field is probably counterproductive to your cause if it makes the judge think you are being arrogant about things.

Your children need you to be showing what a reasonable, responsible parent you are who wants to encourage the maximum reasonable contact between them and their other parent. You can't help it that she's a nutcase (don't use that word) and neither can they, so there may be some kind of accomodations needed.

If she is in a mental hospital, committed or in some program, then she may very well not be out in 3 weeks. Lots of programs require a minimum of 28 days.

Your best bet here is to ask why the hell they didn't disclose to you that it was a mental disorder, why they didn't know about the ened for a second continuance before hand, when they think they WILL be ready to hear this case or are they contemplating delaying it into infinity. And if they have a reasonable answer, like, "we can go next week", then go with that...

Be reasonable, a little contrite, not at all arrogant. You'll see the best lawyers... the best ones who have been trained with 3 years of post-college law school, who have lots of experience in front of judges, who win thier cases.... are not at ALL arrogant, do NOT browbeat people, will act almost solicitous of others in and around the courtroom. When a pro-se person walks in with a chip on their shoulder about how much better they're prepared than the stupid paid lawyer on the other side... it's generally not a good result.

I know you're about to say, "I don't have a chip on my shoulder about the act that she's got a lawyer..." but the thing is, what you've said... it looks an AWFUL lot like you've got a chip on your shoulder about it. I understand... game face & trash talk and being aggressive and not backing down & all... but... it combines to look like a chip on your shoulder and you might want to tone it down ... at least for when you come face to face.

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