Phoenix- The technique is not a guarantee but in my situation I've nothing to lose. Apparently it has worked enough to try it. The bottom line is that you have to stop giving your spouse a reason to leave. Probably the most important step is to stop ALL pursuing behavior (phone calls, email, begging, pleading, letters etc.) These behaviors are reaffirming your spouse's decision. If you're pursuing, you must stop immediately, it's the only chance you have to save your marriage. This step is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. The next step is to get a life- act as if your'e moving on with your life- do things you've always wanted to, if you act like a victim you will become one. The next step is to wait and watch what happens who knows? He may be curious about your "change". That's a very brief synopsis. If your serious about trying to save your marriage I recommend Michelle Wiener Davis' "Divorce Remedy a proven 7 step process to save your marriage". A word of caution - the book is very optimistic and claims that one person alone can save the marriage. I'm scared because I've put alot of stock into this and so far It seems to be working but............ Feel free to PM me if you want to talk. Good Luck moochalee
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