Divorce Support Forums: Troubled Relationship

Well this is the first site that I came across support for troubled relationships and marriages.Myself and my wife were married so far for 5 years, no kids. We have a good understanding of each other and life in general. My wife's is smart and intelligent lady but for some reason her career has not successful as it should have been. In order to get a career going she had to move to different place and that's where our problems initiated.We had rough arguments and our relationship has taken a toll.Basically she is in a situation where she does feel that career growth and relationship cannot co exist,the reason behind that she feels relationship with me is taking a toll.

I have asked to work with me ,even counseling and she doesn't feel enthusiastic about it.I feel really sad and emotional since I have know her and understand her very well.I wasn't supportive of her while she was away and that slowly eroded our relationship.I feel like she wants out of the relationship and trying to figure out how to break it.She even made up a story that she had an affair and later she told me that wasn't true , just to see what would be the reaction. These things indicate that she wants out. I am desperately trying to save our marriage and she is still perturbed by her career,which is understandable.Recently I asked to spend memorial day holiday weekend with me and she was so mad and told that being around me suffocates her and she can't think. I was hoping if we have some time by ourselves, we can help our relationship and I feel bad that she doesn't feel the same. She indicates to me that she is in a shell regarding her career and can't think outside of it now. She always says that I should get someone else and be happy , since she can't provide me that.I am not sure why does she needs to feel that career and relationship cannot coexist, I am sure my action dictated that in past , but I am willing to work with her, but I feel like she thinks its too late.

I just don't know what to do and I have never been in the situation where I am now .Please help and any advise will be welcomed.

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