Ladies on this site, or gentlemen if you would like to comment: It has been eons since I have been on the dating scene. What are the rules ? So far, I can see, is that guys say a lot of things they don't necessarily mean and you would be a fool to take anything seriously. I find that kind of sad. I don't play games and I almost always say what I mean. The result is that I'm getting slaughtered in the dating arena. Any help and advice would be appreciated from someone who has done this for a bit. HOw does one go through this emotional minefield or do you have to approach it with your head only ? God, I don't know how people do it. It drains me and I don't think my skin can get tough enough fast enough. The last rejection really smarted because I just didn't see it coming. Nothing in our conversation hinted at that. And I don't mean on-line dating. I just can't do that right now. I mean just people you meet randomly and really hit it off. Do you just learn how to do this like any other life skill or are there ways to make this easier ? sometimes I would rather sit home, watch TV than go out with face the dating hazards. I know there are nice guys out there. I've met them. Of course, most of them are already attached but it's comforting to know they exist. I never go out with the intention of looking but sometimes you meet someone and there's lots of chemistry so if someone can help me out, I would really appreciate it.