Divorce Support Forums: Does this sound like a reasonable settlement?

[quote]IMO, what you are proposing is extremely fair, almost to a fault. FYI, here is what the court in CA. MUST consider when ordering permanent spousal support.

If you want to KNOW what a court would decide, then consider ALL these factors. Also consider this, the long term GOAL is for each party to be self supporting. Personally, I do not think a court would be much different than what you have proposed, which is adding up both incomes, then dividing it in half. The property settlement is a separate issue and the retirement accounts are factored there, as are houses, businesses, personal property, savings, etc. [/quote]

thanks for the answers everyone. So if the court would pretty much dicide what we already came up with, that is good to know. Now it is just a matter of getting used to it. I do want this to be fair, but I am in the delema of probably every payor in my position. Today I was doing some shopping for a few things for my room I am moving into, and setting up the phone service, and looking into rental trucks for my move this weekened. I remembered how for many years my wife did these kinda things and and I split my income with her. Now she is not going to do these things anymore, but I will continue to splt my income with her. I would like to know how the court sees this as fair so that I can feel better about it. Right now it seems wrong. I really do appreciate all she did in our marriage, and she was definately not one of those spouses that sat around doing nothing. Just due to the kind of people we are we have alot more to show for MY work than if I had been on my own. I was good at my business, but she was really better at making the money go far. But now she is done doing the support thing for me, but I am not done supporting her. I know ss laws were to protect one spouse from being abandoned with no marketable skills in an extreme situation of disertion, but with all that the court takes into consideration, this is not feeling fair inlight of the above.

So, in short, What am I not seeing here that the court sees so it all makes sence? I know the courts position may be arguable, but I think if I saw the reasoning I could accept it easier. Can someone chime in with a word on her behalf? its like I must be stuck on not seeing something that I owe her for, that she can quit the marriage and much of her contribution but I will continue to provide the same as I have all along.

BTW in my opening post SS stood for social security not spousal support.

thanks
ron

Edited by ronis108 (05/22/08 09:50 PM)

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