I know exactly how you feel, in my case I went to the courthouse to file the paperwork, all signed and notarized by both me and my husband and the told me they had to have the judge sign off on them before they could be filed. When I asked the clerk how long and what the next step was she got beligerent with me and told me since I was stupid enough to do this without a lawyer she couldnt tell me what to do. When i called back the next day to check on the paperwork no one had seen them. Its been two weeks and they have not shown up yet, so I am back at square one. Needing some help desperately, If anyone can help me with the steps needed to file the paperwork, please. Also can anyone tell me what the costs will be? for a basic non contested divorce?