No, at this point it would pretty much be an ambush. He and current spouse are fighting and I spoke to her on the phone. She says they are not doing so well and will probably end up divorced. I know our 13 year old daughter wants to live with me full time. She stated that she doesnt want to stay with her father anymore if her stepmom leaves the home. She has had a horrible relationship with her father for years and we have done counseling for most of those years to try and help their relationship. Her stepmom is the only thing keeping the home sane at this point. We have 50/50 but counselor has said that she thinks child should live with me even before new developements in his home. She feels no progress is made on his part in their relationship. I feel I have a good chance of winning full physical and full legal given all factors. I want to know if it is possible to do it alone successfully. I am a reasonably intelligent person and handled other legal matters in the past on my own with no problems. I have just never handles something this large of a matter where and actual persons fate and living circumstances is concerned. I have heard of lowering legal costs by doing all paperwork yourself and just having an attorney come to court with you to do all the talking. At this point I am just weighing all my options.