been married a year, mom died in feb, supposidly affair started in april with coworker, i found out this past monday, i even told him we could work through this, the next day they sign a lease on an apartment together, she's married too, i was always paranoid with him from the beginning, but he assurred me the things like (myspace ) were not a big deal, i had never been paranoid like this before with anybody but this was my first marriage and my mother was ill at the time, so WE blamed the thoughts on my emotional issues and insecurities, he did treat me like a queen until that night now we haven't talked for longer than 30 minutes total, another issue is he also got his "greencard" from me, i need help, i still love him, would take him back but i know it wouldn't work b/c i could never trust him