Divorce Support Forums: ugh

It's been a tough weekend for me. I started feeling really down last night, coming home to an empty house. I almost cried but stopped myself before it started.

I've known my marriage was over for two years. I've been separated for 14 months and legally divorced for a month now.

The problem is I have involved someone else in my mess. We have dated for six months and he wants to be way more serious with me than I want to be with him.

I told him Friday that I needed some space to get things right in my head. I've come to the conclusion that I don't really love him as a person-- I love the companionship and attention he gives, but I'm not in love with him. I'm also not at all ready to settle again. I need more time to get things right with myself first.

He wants to meet up tomorrow to talk about things. I just want to bury my head in the ground and hide.

I feel terrible that I am going to break his heart. What do I do if he cries? I'm not any good at this-- I was married for six years and I was the one who got crushed, not the crusher. I know how that feels and I hate that I may be doing it to him.

I don't really know what the point of this post is, maybe to ask for advice. Has anyone found themselves in a similar situation? How did you handle it? How did it turn out for you?

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No man is happy who does not think himself so. ~Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

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