Divorce Support Forums: visitation by default?

Gigi, what you've posted is logical...but FOC just doesn't work that way. They are overloaded and you usually can't get a call back from your own caseworker. I think I've talked to mine once in 11 years. Mediation is worked with both of us there on a set date, not something that the mediator decides independently or even takes one of us into account without the other (unless one person doesn't show to the meeting)...they are simply there to mediate an agreement between the two of us and write the order as to what we agreed, not to make a decision themselves. They can make suggestions as to how to come to an agreement. I'm under no obligation to mediate it without their help, as it states all future parenting will be mediated THROUGH the FOC.
I am still getting mail at both address as we haven't yet rented or sold the other house.
Unfortunately they really don't care if someone gave out wrong information, they often tell people to call their attorney, that they can't give legal advice or to fill out paperwork but then continue on in generalized statements. Talking falls on deaf ears so explaining all that has transpired in the last 12 months really is pointless until it goes further through the process. I either have to mediate it to an agreement or bring it to court...I've filled out paperwork in the past in regards to his violation of court orders and was basically told that they could not enforce anything beyond the visitation dates & that I would need to sue him in civil court. They really are useless.
After reading the posts more and doing some thinking I am almost positive that he assumed there was a court order for visitation time, just no specific dates and he asked someone general questions in regards to that.
I can almost hear him asking "what do I do for my 4 weeks if she won't call me back to give me a date?".
He also stated that the reason he was sending them copies of the phone records & a copy of the letter he wrote me (which I haven't received yet) was because they told him to send them copies of everything he sent to me...that too sounds like a generalized statement in regards to documenting that he asked for his 4 weeks.
I'm just frustrated having to deal with his dumba$$. It's stressful not knowing what's going to happen but I guess worst case scenario would be that I have to send my son for 4 weeks at the end of the summer. It's funny how he doesn't even ask for visitation of our daughter, it's too easy to document abuse with her there so I'm sure he'd rather not deal with it rather than risk it.

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