Divorce Support Forums: visitation by default?

[quote] If you don't get this resolved, he IS going to get extended visitation. I think you need to push the mediation harder.

**In the mediation, we need to either come to an agreement or it will be put in front of a judge. I don't think he's going to agree to supervised visitation, so I have to assume that it will go in front of a judge.

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He can't just take the kids for 4 weeks. But, if he goes into mediation in September, then it will work against you to not have given him any.

**How does it work against me if there is no court ordered visitation?

(Quote)I know the abuse issues alone warrant a more permanent solution, but no judge is going to say that they agreed to extended visitation one year with an intention to not have any the following - it doesn't follow due process.

**Yes, I agree...the last time he took the kids was when CPS got involved. I still think I don't have enough documentation for supervised visits and was hoping to get through summer without visitation or at least very minimal so that more documentation could be received throughout the next year at the shorter court ordered visits that take place here in FL.

(quote)I think you need to answer on the issue of mediation only and tell him that he needs to schedule it immediately to resolve the summer vacation.
I guess what I am thinking is that the documented abuse is still an allegation to the court. I am not sure of the status on all of the stuff you have been through. But if you don't mediate, it all becomes weakened as evidence. [/quote]

I finally did tell him to go ahead and contact FOC for mediation...I don't want to push for a quick date as that will give him more opportunity to try and get J for 4 weeks.
It's hard, I'm trying to minimize the abuse yet foster a positive relationship between the two yet hope that I can get more documentation so that it will STOP. Yes, the abuse is still an allegation in the eyes of the court. CPS hasn't been back in contact after they had MI CPS visit ex and I highly doubt he admitted anything so I really don't understand the point of that visit either other than to put him on notice.

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