hi- thanks for your reply. We have a "true" 50-50. He spends 50% of his time with me, and 50 with Dad. I guess I shouldn't say I was "forced" to move, but close to it. We used to live in a relatively safe community, until one night I witnessed a shooting outside of my home. The gunmen got away, and I was too scared to stay there anymore. They saw me and knew where I lived. My ex said I was being unreasonable- that nothing would happen to me or our son. Retaliation in my city for snitching is a very real situation. You would think my ex would know that- since he's a cop in the city I lived in. Anyway, that's the gist of it. The judge said I was acting in the best interest of my son and my family, and so custody remained the same. Now he's moving so far away that my poor kid has to pick a parent. I took him to a counselor yesterday. Paid cash so Dad wouldn't see it on the insurance. My son doesn't want his Dad to know he's so upset. Is that the true definition of torture or what? Thanks for "listening"