This book will focus on the rights each spouse has under certain laws, situations, and circumstances, and how the division of the property will be decided by the court or through negotiation.
I doubt that she would get it all. What are the laws in Oklahoma (Community property? Equitable division?) In whose name is the property? Have you signed the settlement?
Who had an affair and who didn't doesn't seem to have a lot of bearing on who gets what. You were married a long time, I don't think they can leave you out in the cold.