Moochalee, Coming from the other side of ths situation, it didn't matter how many apologies my ex made, once the damage to my self-esteem was done, I could not forgive him. The apologies felt more like manipulation to try to keep me than true remorse for what he had done to me. He has made a lot of progress since the separation/divorce and if he had done this from the beginning, without asking me to give him another chance, things might have turned out differently. In the end, he would not leave me alone long enough to re-claim my sense of self-worth(He took it away, but I had to get it back on my own) I guess what I'm saying is, you can't control whether she comes back but you can control your actions and she just might see that you have made a real change.