I am in the process of getting a divorce. Just a little back ground, I did cheat on my husband, but I an totally in love with this other person. My lawyer told me that I can not see him until after my divorce is final. I have read almost every post on here and it seems like everyone is dating other people before their divorce is final. I just wanted to know how many of you dated someone before their divorce was over and why is it that my stbx seems like the only one that wants to make that an issue. I live in Alabama and not sure if it is a no fault state or not and does it matter?