Many thanks to everyone for suggestions. Since we do not have a Social Worker, I need to go to DSS and start there. Maybe someone there can help me get more help and especially see to it that XH pulls his share of taking care of d12. Will DSS help me to get more Child Support even though I agreed not to request more. He only pays $1000 a month for 3 children--His salary is $80K per yr. I now realize he really got off way too easy. I was under stress and depressed when I agreed to everything. do you think I can modify that now?