Nish...I know that. This is why I have been so sad. I let myself dream the happily ever after dream again. I have spoken to him about not parenting her and he says he will stop. I doubt that he can stop being who he is though. The other problem is we have both already purchased more airline tickets to see each other. My daughter and I are supposed to visit him for 8 days next month. I don't want to go. Eight days of him being mad at her and me? UGH! Way too much stress. Then he is supposed to visit me in August. She will be with her dad that weekend. I am trying so hard to back out of this easily. He gave me a ring that I need to return. I have applied for a new job. If I get it I can cancel the July vacation. Then I can break it off in person when I see him in August. I don't mind spending a weekend with him. I just do not want to marry him. He is not the right one for me. I just wish he would realize this too.