Food for thought....I forward all emails to my husband and it is very obvious that I have when he responds instead of me.
I guess I just do not understand how something can go from amicable (she cheated, she left, she remarried (first)), to mean spirited. Plus, it has been twelve years. Their son was 16 months old when she walked out. Over the past several years she just seems to have more and more issues with my husband. I stay clear of the drama (as much as I can) but hate to see it unfold time and time again.