ah, but there is the crux of the matter. You can only control her actions. You cannot make her do anything. Nothing you have stated here is grounds for full custody unless that abuse is proven and even that is not grounds because she is not doing it.
All you can do is your best to follow the guidelines. That is it. You really can't force her no matter how much we want to make them do the right thing.
I know that sucks - but you have to live the way you want to live - you cannot control what she does. You can, however, spend thousands in contempt citations that will get you nowhere.