Divorce Support Forums: support while living together

Temporary support and other orders are usually entered to help peopl efigure all this stuff out. YOu want to have everything part of it. LIke when are you or he going to move out, are you going to sell the house, who will pay for it until that happens, who will pay the electric, gas, cable, credit cards, car, insurances. Where will the kids live once you're no longer in the same house, and what will the visitation times be. Ask about it all at once and not one item at a time.

When you're still living togetehr and the basics are still being paid but one or two things are not part of the unspoken agreement that you'd been living under, those one or two things become a big issue this month, and you work it out with the lawyers and resolve THAT few hundred $$$ worth of ongoing bills and then NEXT month a totally DIFFERENT issue arises and then you spend another several thousand $$ working out the emergency over a few hundred $$ NEXT month. Better to spend your attorney's time getting it ALL figured out for the temporary orders at the same time and then figure out hwo to make it work while the lawyers work on figuring out the final solutions so that you spend less money all around fighting on these temporary items.

Make a list of everythign that gets paid and everything that he earns and every thing that you earn and how each item gets paid. AND who owes it... like should you REALLY have to be paying his car payment or insurance off the spousal maintenance that he pays to you! Come up with some ideas for what else you want to have happen there, and take the whole shebang into the lawyer's office to see if you can get it all worked out at once so that you'll not spend the next few months while the divorce is pending, running in with a new little problem every otehr day.

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