While I agree with you, it would seem that after all this time she would get over it. I do not try to parent her son. I do not even attempt to step into her role. Now when she says I know zero about parenting I do take exception. I mean my husband and I have children together. The ex and her husband have chosen not to have any children. I think that is where the resentment lies. Ex (my hubby)moved on and had more children. She moved on and did not. Stepson is her one and only. Quite sad, because we seem him about twice a year and it seems he really would have liked to have siblings that he could grow up with. But, she make it sounds like being an "only" child is the greatest thing and anyone who has more than one is low class. But, I am getting off topic here. Thanks again for the responses.