Divorce Support Forums: got certified letter from ex today

[quote]Although he is Mr. A$$wipe he is still Dad to both kids and didn't put offensive woring in his request.

**Yes, he stopped referring to me as dirty f@cking c@nt when the court didn't look upon that very happily

What is your problem letting the kids spend some summer vacation with their father? At best they will be happy, at worst they will see Mr. A$$wipe for themselves.

**They've already seen a$$wipe for themselves...just ask my daughter who at age 13 was drilled about being a virgin and threatened with being taken to a gynecologist to have her hymen examined to prove that she was lying, or when he dragged her through the house because she didn't get her shoes on fast enough. Or ask my son who was smacked upside the head during the last visit while he was recovering from major sinus surgery, or the time before when he was thrown across the room and into a wall then sent home with a sinus infection, or the time before when he was sick with croup, severe adenoid infection, sinus infection, tonsillitis and his father refused to re-fill his prescription for antibiotics and took him swimming in 60 degree saltwater and then replied when asked why he didn't refill the prescription "I was going to beat him twice a day but since he was sick, I only beat him once a day."

(quote)You're not obligated to anything other than the business agreement you signed. You can spend money and litigous time and go through court if that's what you think is best for the kids. Or you can be reasonable, just keep it business, and agree. The court will not refuse him to just spend time with his children. [/quote]

The reasonable thing is to go through the court to address the matter...that's what the court order states, all future summer parenting time will be mediated through FOC...it's not about spending money as we don't use attorneys for that particular process, what it IS about is keeping my children safe. EVERY visitation has some type of abuse and my ex refuses to follow most of the court orders that are put in place to PROTECT my children. I'm not being unreasonable and I do want my kids to have a good relationship with their father but I want them to have their SAFETY above all else. I'm not scared that he will kill them, but do try and weigh the damage done against the right for him to see his kids. It's a hard thing to balance. I WILL NOT send them without a court order however as then he is not required to send them back.
Do you get it a little better now?

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