Child Support is what it is and it is based on both of your incomes. Spousal support, like you said, is based on numerous things. Adultry is one of them so if you can prove that he has been unfaithful that will help. You have been married for over 10 years (which seems to be the magic number) so most likely SS will be awarded to you for a couple of years. As much as you want to stay home most likey you will not be able to, especailly if you plan on keeping the house. I suggest you post you questions on the general forum board so more people can help you.