Divorce Support Forums: got certified letter from ex today

[quote]You said:

Physical abuse should be easy to prove.

My response:

Really? Physical abuse doesn't always leave marks.

You said:

Why have you letting this go on?

My response:

You may want to read some of her history before making remarks like the above. [/quote]

You'd think that it would be easier to prove, if the kids were believed and the marks were visible by the time I got them back, if there were marks in the first place. This is where the frustration comes in...if he has child for several weeks but only leaves scratches, bruises or marks during the first week and doesn't follow court order to bring child to daycare then by the time the child is back they are gone so the proof is gone. There have been several times that there hasn't been any marks left...doesn't mean the abuse didn't happen. There has also been at least one time where an officer refused to look at the scratches and bruises on my daughter and from 1300 miles away I could not do anything other than to make sure my daughter was safe at that very moment.
The children have disclosed the abuse to two family counselors, one who believed them and helped to document it and one who was ex's counselor who told the kids they were lying...the kids have also disclosed it to one police officer who then lectured dad and daughter about better communication and "behaving" without making a proper full report...and the kids have also disclosed it to a CPS worker, which has ended up being their word against his with no outcome as of yet.
He is ordered to continue counseling, whether he does it or not I really don't know. Even if he does, he obviously told a previous counselor that what the kids were stating was a lie...so that's pretty pointless anyhow.
His daughter confronted him and he stated that he would not discuss "discipline" with a child.
He's in denial.
I'm frustrated and just trying to keep the abuse at a minimum since I'm powerless to stop it entirely.

I'm debating between doing nothing in regards to his letter, or replying in the context that Gigi suggested on the other post...

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