Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
Hi everyone - I'm new here and need some advice. I have been separated since August 2007 after 11 years of marriage - I decided to leave my husband and he is still in our house. I tried to keep things amicable at first, but he is a big drinker and started acting erratic, hiding my possessions that were still in the house from me and breaking things. So while he was at work one day, I came in and got my things. You would have thought I cleaned out the house, but I just took what was mine before marriage. He changed the locks on the house and won't let me in.
In the meantime, I'm the only name on the mortgage and am stuck paying 1900/month plus rent for my new place. I earn 100k a year, he earns 25k a year even though he's a college graduate like me.
I want to file for divorce, but he has insisted that he will not give me one, will drag it out, and is entitled to support until the divorce is finalized. PA law says I can move it forward on my own as of August 2009, but I am stuck with this huge mortgage till then. If I file now, I will have to pay him support which will probably be less, but I can't trust him to pay the difference on the mortgage.
I don't know what to do. It seems my hands are tied. Does anyone have any advice - should I file now and be tied to support for an undetermined period, or suck it up till next year then file? He just now called and told me to stay away from "his" house (that I'm paying for) and I suppose I'm all fired up from that, but I don't know what to do. My attorney says to let the house go into foreclosure, but I don't know if I want to ruin my credit.
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