The thing that sticks most in my mind right now is birthdays. 1. Parents birthdays-do they go to the parent on that parents birthday? For how long? Over night? What happens if the birthday is on a weekday or weekend? 2. Child's birthday-Who holds the party? What about the actual day? My advice-do not commit to a joint birthday party. When my husband and his ex filled out the new parenting plan, it seemed okay at the time. Fast forward 10 months to the actual birthday and we are fighting with her. I don't want her in my house, so now we have to have it somewhere (more expensive). Next year, (still not getting along albeit for a different reason) she wants to have it at her house. I don't want to be in her house, so we try to arrange it so we would not go to stepdaughters big party, but have a small family dinner at home on our next weekend. Ex did not want to give up being able to horn into our party plans the next year, so she had it at a park. Then we had to go and stand around with her and her friends. Plus you don't want the kids to end up with 2 big parties and the parents trying to out do each other every year. 3. Other family member birthdays-grandparents? other siblings?
Just remember that every thing you want for yourself, the other parent will get too. Someone once said on here, to reverse what you are asking for (he gets what you want for you and you get what you want to give him), and see if you would sign on the dotted line. I thought that was excellent advice that in most cases (no abuse, drug use, etc.) would benefit the children greatly. Good luck!!
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