[quote]That will only work if it is the correct time (in court orders that have times specifically spelled out, that is). If it is early, then there is no contempt of court[quote]
This is the case here, if you read what the original poster said... so it is not a problem, he should be allowed to have anyone pick up the child as per the decree, but the problem is that the daycare provider (grandma) is not going go let his wife do it (whether she's acting on own and told his ex to tell him that the wife can't pick up the child, or whether she's acting under instructions from his ex, we don't know).
If they were using a third party paid daycare provider, there would be no question but that a parent or the parent's designee could pick up the child whenever they wanted and the daycare provider would never be asked to act as policeman in enforcing provisions of the decree. The only reason this kind of drama is possible is that the grandmother is being allowed to act as daycare provider.