Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
If your hubby acts too crazy or threatens you - get a TRO on him and have him put out!
(In Cali) My STBX and I both are still living in the same house while our D is moving forward. I cannot make her leave anymore than she can make me leave.