I think he just wants to shift 100% of the burden on me. He knows that I would NEVER give her up! Totally!! I just need a break especially this Summer so I can focus on my career. She (d12) has a nurse that comes in for 4 hours per day for bathing, feeding, medications, diapering, etc. I am very grateful, sincerely love her nurses, but how can I work just 4 hours per day. Thank you for all the advice, especially the legalities. I need to do something differently. Perhaps I can get XH to pay for half of CC expenses.It definately won't be easy. But I must.