Divorce Support Forums: my response letter to ex...probably sending tomorr

a$$hole, (obviously I will insert his legal name)
After the abuse that our son J suffered at your hands during the Thanksgiving visit while he was recovering from major sinus surgery, the fact that you had not requested E to go for this summer if she would not babysit for you and did not ask for visitation with her, the fact that you skipped the Christmas visitation without any communication, the fact that you failed to provide me with any specific information so that I could responsibly and appropriately help put a court ordered plan in place and the fact that you have not made the appropriate request for mediation through FOC for summer visitation I had to make plans for the children this summer with the understanding that you were unwilling to make appropriate arrangements to see the children in a supervised situation.
Further you only received 4 weeks of visitation last summer for J, of which E only stayed 6 days with your permission...you did not send J to a licensed daycare 4 times per week as previously court ordered, you did not refrain from mixing alcohol with your prescription drugs, you did not seek appropriate medical attention for our son and returned him with a raging sinus infection, you did not return all clothing sent, and in the other past visits you have had, you have proven to be unreliable, shown to disregard your sons medical needs by refusing to fill prescriptions and follow his pediatricians orders and you have been abusive. Specifically the last visit you had with the children, CPS documented the childrens fears and began an investigation both with FL & MI and the walk-in clinic doctor confirmed contusion/bruising that resulted from your hand. It is also questionable whether you are still seeking the counseling that you are required by court order to continue. For these reasons, unsupervised visitation and extensions of additional visitation beyond what you've had before would be highly inappropriate as they would expose our children to further abuse.
You may take one or both children for supervised visitation on August 1st through August 10th, which includes J's birthday, if and only if you obtain the appropriate mediation through the FOC so that both the court and I might be assured that the supervision available for the children is appropriate and an order is written. As I stated several times in conversations with you, I want the kids to be able to have visitation time with you and I want them to be safe and feel safe while doing so. I will not allow you to intimidate me through harassing phone calls or threats, you need to go through the proper avenues which in this case is the FOC. I will be available by phone for whatever date a conference is scheduled through FOC.

Sincerely,

I'm probably going to send it out tomorrow and of course send a copy to FOC as well. I was still hoping to put it off as long as possible so that he could not get a mediation date quick enough to take anything but what I'm offering. He stated today that he would be requesting a court date from FOC, I'm sure he meant mediation and my request will probably come around the same time as he is too lazy to get up in the morning and go down so he will wait until his day off on Friday.

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