Divorce Support Forums: my response letter to ex...probably sending tomorr

Dear EX:

As per our court ordere agreement, we were required to work with the FOC to mediate summer visitation plans. To date, you have not gotten this arranged. However, I have the following grave concerns about visitation this summer. Specifically,

1. Thanksgiving, 2007: Our son J suffered multiple instances of abuse at your hands during the Thanksgiving visit while he was recovering from major sinus surgery, 2. You have documented that our daughter was not to visit this summer unless she would babysit for you
3. Christmas 2007: You skipped the Christmas visitation without any communication.
4. You continue to fail to provide me with any specific information so that I can responsibly and appropriately help put a court ordered plan in place for visitation with BOTH children.
5. You continue to threaten legal action, yet you have not made the appropriate request for mediation through FOC for summer visitation.

Given all of this and the fact that it is now Juen, I had to make plans for the children this summer. I did this with the implied understanding that you were unwilling to make appropriate arrangements to see the children in a supervised situation.

Further complicating this situation is your demand for five weeks of vacation disregarding that you only received 4 weeks of visitation last summer for J. Of that time E only stayed 6 days with your permission. During that time, you did not:
1. Send J to a licensed daycare 4 times per week as previously court ordered,
2. Refrain from mixing alcohol with your prescription drugs.
3. Seek appropriate medical attention for our son and returned him with a raging sinus infection
4. Return all clothing sent, leaving me with considerable extra expenses.

Finally, in the other past visits you have had, you have proven to be unreliable, shown to disregard your sons medical needs by refusing to fill prescriptions and follow his pediatricians orders and you have been abusive.

Specifically the last visit you had with the children, CPS documented the childrens fears and began an investigation both with FL & MI and the walk-in clinic doctor confirmed contusion/bruising that resulted from your hand. It is also questionable whether you are still seeking the counseling that you are required by court order to continue. For these reasons, unsupervised visitation and extensions of additional visitation beyond what you've had before would be highly inappropriate as they would expose our children to further abuse.

However, I recognize how important a relationship with you is for our children. Accordingly, I am agreeable that you may take one or both children for supervised visitation on August 1st through August 10th, which includes J's birthday, if and only if you obtain the appropriate mediation through the FOC so that both the court and I might be assured that the supervision available for the children is appropriate and an order is written. As I stated several times in conversations with you, I want the kids to be able to have visitation time with you and I want them to be safe and feel safe while doing so. I will not allow you to intimidate me through harassing phone calls or threats, you need to go through the proper avenues which in this case is the FOC. I will be available by phone for whatever date a conference is scheduled through FOC.

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