Hi pooh--- in answer to the tat question.... after a long battle with myself to even GET a tat, I started with a Small feather on my shoulder. Later I decided to get another out of pure love, and out of just missing my kids. I Wanted to have mine "with me" all the time. So I went and had ALL my kids names placed on each side and top and bottom sorted by age, or first born. Yea my Bio Daughter got mad to see SD name on me, but hey I told her I have accepted her as my own, so deal with it.She has. I also had my current wifes name place on my other shoulder. These are "personal" tats. No one sees them unless at beach or pool. Like I said it was done out of LOVE, and now I have then with me ALWAYS, no matter the distance that seperates us.