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My husband has really crossed the line and I don't know what to do. Essentially, we have been at odds for years. We have three kids. Two years ago he got laid off from his job and went back to school to become a nurse. I paid for everything, still did most of the housework and he was the "daycare" while I worked. He is now at his new job and refuses to even provide insurance for the kids. I have just changed to part time when he went back to work so we could save on daycare. I will be losing insurance for all of us at the end of the month. He is such a selfish piece of it. I was planning to leave him after he graduated but his close friend shot himself (don't ask). No I don't care. He is disney dad to our seven year old son and my two year old twins adore him. He does NOTHING, even less now. I have the money to leave and I am sure I can get a full time job. I don't even know if counseling will help. Just rambling I guess

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Does this make any sense to anyone else? I am truely confused and not sure the point of the post.
Lets look at what YOU wrote:

1) He got laid off from his job, went back to school so he could find a presumably better job (Very few people go back to school to make less money).
2) He took care of the kids while he was going to school and you worked so you could save money.
3) He now has a full time job (again assuming he graduated and now makes more money).
4) He doesnt want to put the family on his insurane yet, because they are covered currently under yours, this makes him selfish?
5) You were planning to leave him, must assume he knew this as well.
6) The kids apparently adore their father and it sounds like this makes you mad as well.


I have read and reread your post numerous times and yes while it sounds like he should help with the house work. I have yet to see the "selfish piece of shit" that you claim him to be and this is just your version of the tale and I assure you his version would paint himself to look even better.

Your right I don't think counseling will help at least not till you understand your role in this and the anger issues you appear to have.

My honest and sometimes blunt point of view "wow now here is a very bitter angery woman that is trying to desperately play the role of victim and only coming off to sound like a ^%$#@"

just the observations from a stranger.

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