This book will focus on the rights each spouse has under certain laws, situations, and circumstances, and how the division of the property will be decided by the court or through negotiation.
Yes, unfortunately, it is fairly common for you to have to prod your own attorney when deadlines approach. Don't be shy about keeping things moving.
In the early stages of negotiations, you should not concern yourself with how you think an offer will be perceived. You need to start by asking for what you want. Even if you get laughed at, it sets the table for negotiation towards fairness. (If you open with something you think is fair, negotiations will only lead further from a fair resolution not towards it).
The person who is most motivated to resolve the issues under dispute is usually the one to make the first move. I made the first move on finances. My Ex made the first move on our parenting plan.