Divorce Support Forums: Father Knows Best

Geez EZ, the charicature of JBar was NOT caused by any actual experience with the system. He is NOT a father and not a stepfather. He does not live with his wife and has no interest in divorcing her because he fears the law. He cannot get a lawyer to promise him that he'll get everything, so he is consumed with ways of figuring out how to intimidate her into not filing.

And if you saw some of his tactics I think you'd also be fleeing from his defense. He has threatened to falsely accuse her of things and have her committed to an insane asylum (she's a foreigner so she has only a vague understanding of the laws and does not know that this is not as likely to happen as he claims). She works and he lives off disability, having fought hard for it (so you know it's not a CLEAR physical disability, but rather had a severe mental component, you know?)... and getting a lump sum for back disability pay. He used his settlement to buy some properties. She kept working. He fears that she'll lay claim to some portion of his properties, so he figured out how to convince her to go home to spend time with her dying mother in her homeland, and not return. For YEARS.

HE's never actually availed himself of the laws, but his fear of it (from having read alarmist stories off bunches of blogs) makes him act like this. He has no actual experience with the divorce laws at all which cause him to feel this way, ONLY his conjecture and his interesting, rather skewed view of things. He actually believes that his wife would never be able to have an atotrney represent her in court. He believes any atotrney doing so woudl be unethical. He says it's because he has proof that she's schizophrenic and it's against legal ethics to represent a mentally ill person. THe twists & turns of logic he took to get to this conclusion were amazing, and as a result, he advised his wife on this law and convinced her that eh was right, so that if she dared to tak ehim to court, she'd lose it all.

She has never demanded anythign from him, has not lived with him in YEARS (if at all, they maintained separate households even when amicably married, to hear him tell it), and has been living on her own all this time. She did have a business which failed and he feared terribly that she woudl demand half of his for that... but it's been a few years and so far, nothing. There was a point where he heard she was back in the country and had a car. I don't recall what the issue was but he wanted to prevent her from driving it and had twisted himself into all kinds of logical contortions, something involving deporting her or something...

I mean, this guy has nothing to do with community property law other than fear mongering... so when he decides to show up in EVERY thread involving fatherhood and tries to hijack it...

Well, I've seen other forums where the fahters actually kept control of each other adn didn't spend all thier time patting each other on the backs for coming up with new and more extremist points of view... and it's frustrating to see that on htis forum where there are so many good guys, none of you are speaking up to tell him to just suck it up & get it over with and stop trying to make men look like jerks by trying to mess up thier wives...

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